Conflicts
"How to settle conflicts?" I've been asking this question for a long time without actually knowing what "conflicts" looks like, until today.
What might introduce conflicts? The most general reason is differences in interest, different way of looking at things. Different interest will lead to different list of task priority, and people always take more care about the first thing on their priority list.
I don't know which is right: to consider more about self-development or consider more about project progresses? Right, you might say: "of course, we should put project progresses before self-development" But, what if the project is not so important? What if you always have to sacrifice your opportunities of self-improvement for projects?
So you'll have to work out a way to balance this two. The first choice is to find a "win-win" solution.
Step 1. What does the other people who have a problem with your decision/choice need most? Don't be blinded by bias. Most of the people are kind and they do not intend to be a barrier on your way. However, conflicts arises because most people tend to see the cause appear to be, instead of the root cause. At least at the first sight.
Step 2. Communicate with the people of conflict, identify the root cause of conflicts together (communication is important, you have to double check whether you've totally understand what the people's concern is). The tip is: don't get irritated, don't label other people.
Step 3. Try to see whether you can settle the root cause of conflict using alternatives, instead of compromizing. If you cannot do it yourself, you might find a better solution by interviewing senior people.
Step 4, propose the solution, and see if the others are fine with it. If not, go back to step 2.
The above is the lesson learned from my own experience, documented here for future references.
